Dating a borderline woman
People with BPD will often report that at the beginning of a new romantic relationship they put their new partner “on a pedestal” and sometimes feel they have found their perfect match, a soul mate who will rescue them from their emotional pain.
This kind of thinking is called “idealization.”This honeymoon period can be very exciting for the new partner too.
People with BPD also tend to have more former partners and tend to terminate more relationships in their social networks than people without personality disorders.
The result is a constant back-and-forth between demands for love or attention and sudden withdrawal or isolation.
The emotions may result in frantic efforts to avoid abandonment, such as pleading, public scenes, and even physically preventing the other person from leaving.
Another common complaint of loved ones in borderline relationships is lying.
Another BPD symptom that particularly impacts relationships is called abandonment sensitivity.
This can lead those with BPD to be constantly watching for signs that someone may leave them and to interpret even a minor event as a sign that abandonment is imminent.